शनिवार, अगस्त 5

कन्या भ्रूण हत्या : भारतीय समाज के माथे पर कलंक

एक अजन्मी बेटी का अपनी मां को पत्र

मेरी प्यारी मां,

मैं खुश हूं और भगवान से प्रार्थना करती हूं कि आप भी सुखी रहें।  यह पत्र मैं इसलिये लिख रही हूं कि मैने एक सनसनीखेज खबर सुनी है जिसे सुनकर मैं दहल गई हूं।  आपको यह पता चल गया है कि आप एक बेटी की मां बनने वाली हैं और इसलिये आप मुझे इस दुनियां में आने ही नहीं देना चाहती हैं।

पुण्यशीला मां ! बस आप एक बार कह दीजिये कि मैने जो सुना है, वह सब झूठ है। मेरे तो हाथों में भी इतनी ताकत नहीं कि डॉक्टर की क्लीनिक की ओर बढ़ते आपके कदमों को आपका पल्लू खींच कर रोक सकूं। बाहें इतनी पतली और कमज़ोर हैं कि आपके गले लिपट कर रो भी नहीं सकती।

मेरी प्यारी मां ! मुझे मारने के लिये आप जो दवा खाने जा रही हैं, वह मेरे नन्हें से शरीर को बहुत कष्ट देगी। आप तो देख भी नहीं पायेंगी कि वह दवाई आपके पेट के अन्दर मुझे कितनी बेरहमी से मार डालेगी । डॉक्टर की हथौड़ी कितनी क्रूरता से मेरी कोमल खोपड़ी के टुकड़े - टुकड़े कर डालेगी । उसकी कैंची मेरे नाज़ुक हाथ-पैरों को किस तरह काट डालेगी । काश आप यह सब देख पातीं तो ऐसा करने की कभी सपने में भी नहीं सोच पातीं। 

सुखदात्री मां, ममतामयी मां, मुझे बचाओ! यह दवा जो आपको दी जाने वाली है, मुझे आपके शरीर से इस तरह फिसला देगी, जैसे साबुन की टिकिया हाथ से फिसलती है। भगवान के लिये मां, ऐसा कभी मत करना । अभी तो मेरी आवाज़ भी नहीं निकलती, चिल्लाऊं भी तो कैसे ? मुझे आपकी ममता चाहिये, आपकी गोद चाहिये, डॉक्टर की हथौड़ी या कैंची नहीं मां ! प्लीज़ मां, आपको किस बात का डर है ? मेरी शादी का, दहेज़ का, खर्चे का ? मां, आप मुझे बस पढ़ा लिखा देना, मैं  खुद अपने पैरों पर खड़ी हो जाउंगी, आपकी और पापा की खूब सेवा करूंगी, आपकी हर बात मानूंगी । जो खाने को देंगे, वही खा लूंगी। बस आप मुझे एक बार ये दुनिया देख लेने दें मां!

मां, आप मुझे मार डालेंगी तो मेरा भैया राखी किससे बंधवायेगा? क्या उसकी बहन उसके लिये कभी अभिशाप हो सकती है? मैं तो अपने भैया के सुखी जीवन के लिये सदा दुआ ही करती रहूंगी मां आप लोगों पर कभी भी बोझ नहीं बनूंगी। 

कभी आपकी तबियत ठीक नहीं होगी तो आपकी दिन-रात सेवा करूंगी, घर के काम में हाथ बंटाऊंगी। आप सब का आशीष मेरे सर पर रहा तो किसी दिन कुछ बन कर दिखा दूंगी मां ! अब तो लड़कियां कलक्टर भी बन जाती हैं, प्रधानमंत्री और राष्ट्रपति भी! आप चिंता क्यों करती हो मां ! मुझे आपका प्यार मिल जायेगा तो जीवन में ऐसा कुछ करने की कोशिश मैं भी करूंगी मां कि आपको, पापा को, मेरे शहर को और मेरे देश को मुझ पर गर्व हो ।  आप सब खुशी से कह सकें कि हां, ये हमारी प्यारी, हमारी लाडली बेटी है। वही मेरी सबसे बड़ी दौलत और खुशी होगी मां ! 

आपकी अजन्मी बेटी 
(आपने मेरा कुछ नाम तो सोचा होगा मां ?  
मैं जिन्दा रह पाती तो किस नाम से मुझे बुलातीं आप ?)  


श्री नीरज जैन, चिलकाना रोड, सहारनपुर  ने अपनी ये मर्मस्पर्शी रचना हमें प्रेषित की है। हम उनके आभारी हैं और कन्या भ्रूण हत्या रोकने के लिये जन-जागरण अभियान में इसे एक महत्वपूर्ण योगदान के रूप में स्वीकार करते हैं।) 


Comments on Guest Book 

We had thrown a debate on our Guest book by posing two questions -  
1.  What are the reasons people of our country kill female child even before her birth? 
2.  What can be done to stop killing of female child?   Proper Education or Strict Punishment?   

Response from our readers 

Wht r d reasons ppl of our country kill female child even before her birth?

They get scare of so many other ills of our sociey. e.g. DOWERY

What shud b done to correct d situation?  Punishment or proper education ?

Punishment will not help at all.
Proper education will help to change the mindset.

Pallavi Crazy Green@ 5:38am 03-02-2010

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To stop the female child killing, so many things need to be stopped prior to it. One of the biggest reasons behind female foeticide is DOWERY. People get scared of the fact that they will have to 
arrange money to marry their daughter and so they find killing them easy. 

Punishment can never change the mentality of a person. The reasons why people get scared of having girls as their children, need to be stop first. Female foeticide will be automatically stopped.

Meenakshi Kapoor@ 9:19pm 02-28-2010
Pittsburg, USA

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Wht r d reasons ppl of our country kill female child even before her birth?

Sheer lack of education and awareness, religious & cultural beliefs and mostly the misconception that female child is a burden on the family. What shud b done to correct d situation? Punishment or proper education?

Punishment or proper education ?

Both, in my opinion. Stricter law to be made not just for the sake of making law but enforcement should be done too.

Educate people, those who are unaware of the female power and feel the a girl is a burden on the family, they should be made aware that girls have equal rights and avenues in life. Parents don't understand that being a female is not a curse but a boon for the family. Educate not only the parents but make arrangements to give education to the female child as well, so that they can stand on their own feet and parents wont feel them as a burden.

But when i see these kind of incidents happening in the families who are so called "educated" and well off, i feel that it is all because of the cultural beliefs that people have. Despite being educated they are hung up on the idea of male child carrying the family name further. 

What should be done to correct the situation? 

a) Make Strict Law and enforcement them.
b) Close all those clinics that advertise to give guaranteed medicine to have boy child.
c) Spread the awareness
d) Make special arrangement for female child education
e) Laws to be made for abolition of dowry - Dowry system has to be eradicated for parents not to feel a female child to be a burden.

It is unfortunate that despite the law that was passed many years ago to stop the pre-natal sex-determination, it has not be enforced and female foeticide is rampant in our society which is 
widening the gap between male and female population.

Joga Randhawa@ 11:38am 02-28-2010
Vancouver, Canada 

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What shud b done to correct d situation?  Punishment or proper education ?
Female foeticide has already created a big gap between male and female population in Indian society.  It is a very unhealthy trend in our societies and it should be stopped, opposed and criticized in all possible ways. There is no one single reason for female foeticide.  Poverty, illiteracy, dowry, religious belief etc all have contributed to create a trend and a pro-male mind-set in Indian societies. And now the latest technology has made it more simple and accessible to almost everyone with help of most educated section of society - the doctors.To correct the situation, no doubt we have to overcome poverty, illiteracy and down  problems, but the most important thing required is a social movement to create an environment where a female child gets the equal status in families,  equal status of  women in society and equal importance of women in families. Female child's birth should be celebrated as equal  to the male child.  

All so called Baba's who claim to bless Sons should be discarded by the people and people should come forward to make it a social  movement irrespective of their religion. I feel proud to have two daughters equally if I would have sons. Mr. Ajay, me and many many more like us face silly questions not from outsiders but even from close friends, family members. 

Now, the time has come when one should not remain silent but to reply in a positive educative bold way. Everyone should restrain from such queries which even unintentionally harms the cause to stop female foeticide.

Sushil Kumar Shanti@ 12:44am 02-28-2010
Doha, Qatar

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Female foeticide has become  quite a big challenge for  india. while govt  and   private organizations are  taking all positive measures   to over come such challenges,  it becomes  the responsibility of each and every person of the society also.  as indicated  by me earlier on this page that the mind of our society is becoming  polluted  day by day, the necessity to refine the polluted mind has become vital now. i believe that female illiteracy, obscurantist social practices like child marriage or early marriage, dowry, poor nutritional entitlements, taboos on women in public places – all make the indian women and especially the indian girl child extremely vulnerable. there has to be much greater focus on female literacy because the adverse sex ratio that we have today has to be challenged fundamentally in the minds of our people. i urge every saharanpurians , social workers, politicians  and  well wishers  to step forward and help in empowering the girl child in every possible way. the action must begin at home, in our families, in our communities. 

If I am correct, the pre-natal diagnostic techniques (regulation and prevention of misuse) act was enacted in  1994 by the government of india. the main purpose of enacting the (Prohibition of Sex Delection) act, 1994 has been to:

  • Ban the use of sex selection techniques before or after conception .
  • Prevent the misuse of pre-natal diagnostic techniques for sex selective abortions 
  • Regulate such techniques stringent punishments have been prescribed under the act for using pre-conception and pre-natal diagnostic techniques to illegally determine the sex of the foetus. 
  • The appropriate authorities at the district and state levels are empowered to search, seize and seal the machines, equipments and records of the violators. the sale of certain diagnostic equipment is restricted only to the bodies registered under the act.
I remember a poem  which I am posting here regarding  female foeticide.

Who are you to decide 
if I want to live or die
without realizing the depth of your decision
you pass a verdict that’s just not right
for without me who would give you birth
for without me you too would die

i am my mother’s daughter 
why do you force her to 
kill me before I am born
so what if I am a girl , 
you too are an insensitive boy
don’t you ever forget 
your mother is a woman too
then would you kill her too?
so why then do you sign 
on the dotted line 
and make my mother cry 
who are you to decide 
if I want to live or die

good luck to all

Shreya narang
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Wht r d reasons ppl of our country kill female child even before her birth?

jimedarion se bachna chahte hai

What shud b done to correct d situation?  Punishment or proper education?

Proper education.  Proper education to girls also! kam restrictions.

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Killing of female foeticide is just because of our social structure.

I have two daughters and i know how you have to reply so many queries about this. Why you did not try? I know a medicine? I know a doctor and so on... I know in last 8 years (age of my younger kid) i have replied so many times that we do not need more children. Because of society pressure a person who doesn’t have much confidence will sure go for a next child and than he will try all means to get a male child. This is our society. You and I, we all are part of it. Some will say girls are good, you are lucky Mr. Ajay that you have two daughters but I know that person too saying me that you need a male child. Don’t cry for female foeticide. Creat a movement which tell people that your daughter will help you in your old age. Don’t blame only those parents who go for it but we too need to change ours attitude. We should popularize adoption of a child program. Crazygreen is also working in this direction. We will provide details of all centers from where you can get a child. Come and change the world by changing yourself. We all are part of society and society forcing people to take this type of steps. 
@ Ajay Crazygreen

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कश्मीर से कन्याकुमारी तक भारत एक हो या न हो, लेकिन बेटियों की हत्या के मामले में यह ’सांस्कृतिक एकता’ बरकरार है।  मैं यह समझ पाने में असमर्थ रहा हूं आप समझ पायें तो बतायें कि दुर्गा - पार्वती और गायत्री की पूजा करने वाले हमारे समाज में बेटी का आना अशुभ और अभिशाप क्यों माना जाता है?  गरीबी - अशिक्षा - दहेजप्रथा का निमित्त ले जन्म से पहले ही या जन्म के बाद बेटी की हत्या का चलन बढ़ रहा है।

- मुनि नयन सागर जी महाराज
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एक ओर हम कन्या दान का पुण्य अर्जित करने के लिये, अपने घर में कन्या न हो तो समाज में किसी निर्धन कन्या को ढूंढ रहे हैं ताकि उसका विवाह करा सकें।  नवरात्रों में अड़ोस - पड़ोस में कन्याओं को एकत्र करने हेतु भागते-दौड़ते फिरते हैं ताकि धार्मिक अनुष्ठान सफलता पूर्वक पूर्ण हो सके और दूसरी ओर हम कन्याओं को जन्म लेने ही नहीं देना चाहते।  यह कैसा विरोधाभास है?  यह कन्या विरोधी मानसिकता आत्मघाती है।  जब समाज में किसी घर में बेटियां ही नहीं रहेंगी तो बेटों के लिये हम बहुएं कहां से लायेंगे ?   

- पद्मश्री भारत भूषण

हमारे देश में बहुत लंबे समय तक शूद्र कहलाने वाली जाति के लोगों को मंदिरों में प्रवेश की मनाही रही है, सार्वजनिक कुओं, स्नानागार के उपयोग तक की मनाही रही है। इसके लिये न जाने कितने पोथे - पुराण आदि का हवाला दे - देकर इसे तर्क सम्मत ठहराया जाता रहा है। आज भी इस सामाजिक बुराई से पूरी तरह से पिंड नहीं छुड़ाया जा सका है। दूसरी ओर जन्म लेने से पहले ही बेटियों की हत्या करने और करवाने वाले लोग आज सामाजिक पद-प्रतिष्ठा के पात्र माने जाते हैं।

अब समय आ गया है कि हमारे साधु, संत, महात्मा, मुनिवर बेटियों की रक्षा का अभियान अपने हाथ में लें और विगत में धर्म के नाम पर जो अपराध जाने - अनजाने होते रहे, उनका परिमार्जन करें।  मैं देश में विद्यमान सभी साधुओं, संतों, मुनियों, साध्वियों का आह्वान करता हूं कि अपने प्रत्येक प्रवचन से पूर्व यह घोषणा किया करें कि उनकी सभा में उन सभी हत्यारों का प्रवेश पूर्णतः वर्जित है जिन्होंने अपनी अजन्मी बेटी की हत्या का पाप अपने सिर लिया है या इसमें किसी भी प्रकार से योगदान दिया है। 

साथ ही, ये संत महात्मा उन सभी महिला चिकित्सकों व शल्य चिकित्सकों का सामाजिक बहिष्कार किये जाने का भी आदेश दें जो पैसे के अंधे लालच में प्रसव पूर्व लिंग परीक्षा करते हैं और कन्या की पुष्टि होने पर उसकी हत्या कर देते हैं। ऐसे सभी चिकित्सक अपने नर्सिंग होम में बोर्ड अवश्य लगा कर रखते हैं कि "यहां प्रसवपूर्व लिंग परीक्षा नहीं की जाती है। यह अपराध है" पर दिन - रात इस अपराध में ही लिप्त रहते हैं। 

कानून कितना भी सख्त क्यों न हो, इनका कुछ नहीं बिगाड़ पाता है। कानून ने इनके लिये बहुत सारे loopholes छोड़ रखे हैं। कानून इनको लिंग जांच की  अनुमति नहीं देता परन्तु भ्रूण का व गर्भवती स्त्री का ultra-sound करने की अनुमति देता है। कानून गर्भपात की भी पूरी अनुमति देता है चाहे जन्म लेने वाला बच्चा male हो या female child हो। Health reasons / Medical advice के नाम पर ये कन्या भ्रूणहत्या करते हैं।

हमारे धर्मभीरु समाज में इन अपराधियों को काबू में करने का एक ही तरीका प्रभावी हो सकता है कि समाज को दिशा-निर्देश देने वाले, नैतिकता का ज्ञान कराने वाले हमारे साधु - संत इनका सामाजिक  बहिष्कार करें।

- सुशान्त सिंहल
संपादक, द सहारनपुर डॉट कॉम

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Parcham - an organisation of awakened women of Saharanpur - organised a program to Find Ways to Stop Female Foeticide. The program was organised with the support of Rashtriya Mahila Ayog.

Many learned people spoke on the subject including Dr. Nishchal (J. V.Jain College) and Sh. Sanjaya Garg, State Minister, U.P. Govt. There was a concensus on the following points:
  • The phenomenon is very detestable and it needs to be attended to on priority basis.
  • Stringent laws are not enough. The mindset of the families needs to be changed.
  • The phenomenon is not confined to any class, creed or race in our country. Punjab, one of the richest states has the least number of girl children allowed to take birth. No religious group can be singled out as afflicted with this mentality.
Friends, we the members of The Saharanpur Dot Com should take it up as a challenge and try to spread the awareness. The situation is quite complex keeping in mind that the doctors are entitled to have ultra-sound machines in their clinic since it is an important diagnostic aid in the modern times. Moreover, abortions have also been legalised. Even when a pregnancy is terminated because it was a female foetus, the doctor can always say that the health situation of the mother was such that abortion was medically advised. There is no one to contradict her. 

Some more issues are given below in this matter which need to be taken into account:

  1. There are only 4 countries where male - female ratio goes against females - India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and China. Pakistan and Bangladesh are not part of India now but till a few decades ago, they were. So, culturally they are the same. India and China seem to share same mindset on the matter of girls. Russia on the other hand has just opposite situation. There are 1104 girls viz. a viz. 1000 boys in Russia.
  2. Saharanpur is one of those districts where male:female ratio is specially in alarming state. There are just 872 girls in Saharanpur against 1000 boys.
  3. The fact that a very little number of girls are being allowed to take birth in Saharanpur is proved from the fact that in the age bracket of 0-6, number of girl children is even less.
  4. Legalisation of abortion by the government is the biggest loophole being used by the criminals - whether doctors or expectant mothers-fathers for killing girl children.
  5. The wealthy people who don't want girls in their family lure the doctors by offering large sums to them to get involved in this heinous crime and pregnancies are being terminated by mutual understanding between doctors and expectant mothers (and fathers). The girls being killed are perhaps the only ones who could have wished to complain but being utterly defenceless, they are killed much before they could gain the strength to raise their voice against this gross injustice and insult to the humanity.
  6. Once a baby is born, we tend to feel affectionate towards her and probably can't think of killing her. But while the baby is in mother's womb, even mothers don't feel uneasy at the crudest idea of killing the unborn baby. Perhaps they have become too intelligent on such matters and take it matter of factly. After all, "being too much sentimental doesn't help !"
  7. Some people may scoff at the suggestion that women are the worst enemy of women. Instead of protecting their daughters-in law, some mothers in-law are found involved in abetting this 
  8. crime. By constantly blaming and cursing their daughter-in-law for giving birth to a girl, they take their daughters-in-law to the doctors for sex-determination and if need be, abortion. If the 
  9. daughter-in-law refuses to cooperate, they may even try to finish her off by throwing kerosene and a match stick on her. Male members of the family are generally less particular in such matters and may be found less involved in such crimes. In any case, if womenfolk would decide that they would protect each other come what may, no male member in any family would ever succeed in killing an unborn child. 
  10. Then, there are the gynaecologists who also are women. Instead of throwing the people out of their clinics who approach them for sex determination and abortion in case of a girl, they try to appease them because of their never ending need for money.
In view of the foregoing, it is a tedious task. There is an unholy trinity of criminals - mothers, doctors and good for nothing law enforcement agencies. All of them protect each other. What is the way out ? What do you think can be done under such circumstances ? Please speak up !

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